4. It is usual for friends to call only to offer their services or leave cards while the funeral preparations are being made. 5. It is best that the friend in charge should receive all calls, so as to relieve the afflicted family from intrusion. 6. To prevent ordinary calls, as soon as the death occurs, crape should be affixed to the door or bell-knob or knocker. 7. If an old person, the crape should be black and tied with a black ribbon; if a child, white, tied with a white ribbon, and if a youthful person, or unmarried, black crape tied with white ribbon is usual. 8. The coffin should rest in the parlor, and it is here that the guests will assemble. Services may be held there, or at the church. 9. Guests must expect no attention from the members of the family. Some relative or chosen friend will receive them upon the sad occasion. 10. If there is to be a sermon in church, the coffin will be placed in front of the altar, and should be covered with a black cloth. 11. After the services an opportunity will be given to friends to take a last view of the dead. This should be done in solemn, decorous order; the congregation mov- 406 TWENTIETH CENTURY HOME COOK BOOK. ing in one direction and passing by the cofEn. The halt should be short. There should be no conversation. 12. When the services are concluded, the coffin will be borne to the hearse by pall-bearers, who' have been selected from the nearest friends of the deceased. 13. The clergyman should now enter a carriiige, and precede the hearse to the cemetery. 14. Immediately following the hearse is the carriage bearing the bereaved family; relatives and friends follow in the order of their relationship or friendship. 15. The friend in charge should see the family to their carriage, seat them, and close the door. He should also arrange the order of precedence, and attend to other matters. 16. At the gate of the cemetery, it is usual to dismount from the carriages and follow the coffin, on foot, to the grave. 17. Flowers used to decorate the coffin and the room, Avhere the dead is lying, should be white. If an aged or married person, the ornament on the coffin is usually a cross ; if young or unmarried, a wreath. 18. Societies of which deceased was a member may be notified through the papers to attend, or an invitation to the president of each society for its presence is sufficient. 19. If the death has occurred from any contagious disease, the fact should be stated in the funeral notice, and the invitation to attend omitted. 20. In England it is usual for the most deeply afllictcd to remain at home, and in this country excess of grief often prevents their attendance at the grave. 21. Cards should be left for the bereaved family the week following the funeral, and in the second week brief calls may be made. 22. From these calls of condolence persons themselves lately aflSicted, or in mourning, may be excused, since they might only renew their own grief. XVII. Etiquette of the Christening. 1. When a child is to be baptized, near friends or relatives are chosen to act as sponsors or god-parents. 2. If it is the first child in the family, the preference is usually given to the grandfather on the father's side and the grandmother on the maternal side. Should this not be feasible, the other grandparents have the next preference. 3. For other children, and often for the first, other sponsors are chosen. 4. The child, clothed all in white, and held by its nurse, is carried into the church, or if at home, into the room, followed by its sponsors, side by side, but not arm in arm, and they in turn are followed by the parents; or the father alone, if the mother should be unable to attend.

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4. It is usual for friends to call only to offer their services or leave cards while the funeral preparations are being made. 5. It is best that the friend in charge should receive all calls, so as to relieve the afflicted family from intrusion. 6. To prevent ordinary calls, as soon as the death occurs, crape should be affixed to the door or bell-knob or knocker. 7. If an old person, the crape should be black and tied with a black ribbon; if a child, white, tied with a white ribbon, and if a youthful person, or unmarried, black crape tied with white ribbon is usual. 8. The coffin should rest in the parlor, and it is here that the guests will assemble. Services may be held there, or at the church. 9. Guests must expect no attention from the members of the family. Some relative or chosen friend will receive them upon the sad occasion. 10. If there is to be a sermon in church, the coffin will be placed in front of the altar, and should be covered with a black cloth. 11. After the services an opportunity will be given to friends to take a last view of the dead. This should be done in solemn, decorous order; the congregation mov- ing in one direction and passing by the coffin. The halt should be short. There should be no conversation. 12. When the services are concluded, the coffin will be borne to the hearse by pall-bearers, who' have been selected from the nearest friends of the deceased. 13. The clergyman should now enter a carriage, and precede the hearse to the cemetery. 14. Immediately following the hearse is the carriage bearing the bereaved family; relatives and friends follow in the order of their relationship or friendship. 15. The friend in charge should see the family to their carriage, seat them, and close the door. He should also arrange the order of precedence, and attend to other matters. 16. At the gate of the cemetery, it is usual to dismount from the carriages and follow the coffin, on foot, to the grave. 17. Flowers used to decorate the coffin and the room, where the dead is lying, should be white. If an aged or married person, the ornament on the coffin is usually a cross ; if young or unmarried, a wreath. 18. Societies of which deceased was a member may be notified through the papers to attend, or an invitation to the president of each society for its presence is sufficient. 19. If the death has occurred from any contagious disease, the fact should be stated in the funeral notice, and the invitation to attend omitted. 20. In England it is usual for the most deeply afllictcd to remain at home, and in this country excess of grief often prevents their attendance at the grave. 21. Cards should be left for the bereaved family the week following the funeral, and in the second week brief calls may be made. 22. From these calls of condolence persons themselves lately afflicted, or in mourning, may be excused, since they might only renew their own grief. XVII. Etiquette of the Christening. 1. When a child is to be baptized, near friends or relatives are chosen to act as sponsors or god-parents. 2. If it is the first child in the family, the preference is usually given to the grandfather on the father's side and the grandmother on the maternal side. Should this not be feasible, the other grandparents have the next preference. 3. For other children, and often for the first, other sponsors are chosen. 4. The child, clothed all in white, and held by its nurse, is carried into the church, or if at home, into the room, followed by its sponsors, side by side, but not arm in arm, and they in turn are followed by the parents; or the father alone, if the mother should be unable to attend.

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