6. Gentlemen never cast slurs upon the softer sex, and he is churlish, as well
as ill-bred, who maligns woman in general.
ETIQUETTE OF THK WEDDING, THE ROAD AND THE CAPITAL. 4:15
7. Shakspeare gives many excellent general rules for social government,
amongst them : "Be thou familiar, but by no means vulgar," showing that even among
friends intimacy should not degenerate into vulgar disregard of all conventionalities.
8. Beware of sudden familiarities.
9. Your dress should be of as rich material as you can afford, but not flashy.
In cut and color it should be quiet and modest.
10. Be prompt in keeping engagements and punctual in meeting all obligations.
11. Avoid borrowing or lending. No man can be independent and but few
honest when in debt.
12. In speaking of friends and acquaintances to others, no matter how intimate,
give them the prefix of Mr., Miss or Mrs., as the case demands.
13. Avoid sneering and sarcasm.
11. Be not witty at the expense of another ; no humor is permissible but that
which is perfectly innocent.
15. Punning is a weak apology for wit, and should be eschewed.
16. Never look over anyone's shoulder while reading a book, paper or letter.
17. Never search through a card basket or an album unless invited.
18. Do not be ashamed to tender an apology, if in the wrong. Always accept
one with gentle courtesy.
19. If a secret is intrusted to you, never reveal it; it is neither honorable nor
honest to give away that which is not yours.
20. Exaggeration is foolish. If you must speak, speak the truth.
21. Never display any form of curiosity; it is a despicable trait of character to
be curious about things that do not concern you.
22. Never flatter. A delicate compliment may be innocently offered and well
received, but flattery is odious.
23. Do not whisper in society, and avoid signaling to friends in company.
24. Avoid the use of languages unknown to the generality of the company
25. Never be dogmatic, nor make dictatorial assertions.
26. In entering a house, even your own, always remove your hat, and do not
be boisterous or restless.
27. It is better to have no associations than to have evil ones. Good books or
good thoughts are better than evil companions.
28. Never back your opinions with an oath or a bet.
29. Avoid all profanity, loud talking and boisterous merriment.
30. At the breakfast table, politely salute all assembled, if it be the first time
of meeting for that day. A cheerful " good morning" should be passed between the
members of the home circle.
31. Of course, no gentleman will chew tobacco in a church, parlor, or in the
presence of ladies.
32. Be natural. Avoid eccentricity and affectation.
33. Do not ape any one.
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34. Your room is the place for making your toilet. Do not arrange your cloth-
ing in company.
35. In company avoid paring or cleaning your nails, picking your teeth,
scratching your head, etc.
36. Be not egotistical nor pompous. These faults would cloud the most brilliant
genius; how much more so mere ordinary mortals.
37. Volunteer your aid to any lady in distress, or to an invalid or aged person.
38. You cannot afford to let one beneath you in station exceed you in pohte-
ness. Be courteous to every one.
39. Boast of nothing; especially not of your wealth, since that is the least
qualification of a gentleman.
40. A wife or husband should speak respectfully of each other, and should be
mentioned as Mr. , or Mrs. .
41. Ostentation is silly and vulgar.
42. Never make your ailments or your troubles a topic of conversation, but
treat sympathetically those who do.
43. Never contradict in a rude manner. Always point out a mistake with
gentle courtesy.
44. Never soil or mark a book that has been lent to you. Return it in good
order; and, if unavoidably injured, return it and a fresh copy also.
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6. Gentlemen never cast slurs upon the softer sex, and he is churlish, as well as ill-bred, who maligns woman in general.
ETIQUETTE OF THE WEDDING, THE ROAD AND THE CAPITAL. 415
7. Shakspeare gives many excellent general rules for social government, amongst them : "Be thou familiar, but by no means vulgar," showing that even among friends intimacy should not degenerate into vulgar disregard of all conventionalities.
8. Beware of sudden familiarities.
9. Your dress should be of as rich material as you can afford, but not flashy. In cut and color it should be quiet and modest.
10. Be prompt in keeping engagements and punctual in meeting all obligations.
11. Avoid borrowing or lending. No man can be independent and but few honest when in debt.
12. In speaking of friends and acquaintances to others, no matter how intimate, give them the prefix of Mr., Miss or Mrs., as the case demands.
13. Avoid sneering and sarcasm.
11. Be not witty at the expense of another ; no humor is permissible but that which is perfectly innocent.
15. Punning is a weak apology for wit, and should be eschewed.
16. Never look over anyone's shoulder while reading a book, paper or letter.
17. Never search through a card basket or an album unless invited.
18. Do not be ashamed to tender an apology, if in the wrong. Always accept one with gentle courtesy.
19. If a secret is intrusted to you, never reveal it; it is neither honorable nor honest to give away that which is not yours.
20. Exaggeration is foolish. If you must speak, speak the truth.
21. Never display any form of curiosity; it is a despicable trait of character to be curious about things that do not concern you.
22. Never flatter. A delicate compliment may be innocently offered and well received, but flattery is odious.
23. Do not whisper in society, and avoid signaling to friends in company.
24. Avoid the use of languages unknown to the generality of the company
25. Never be dogmatic, nor make dictatorial assertions.
26. In entering a house, even your own, always remove your hat, and do not be boisterous or restless.
27. It is better to have no associations than to have evil ones. Good books or good thoughts are better than evil companions.
28. Never back your opinions with an oath or a bet.
29. Avoid all profanity, loud talking and boisterous merriment.
30. At the breakfast table, politely salute all assembled, if it be the first time of meeting for that day. A cheerful " good morning" should be passed between the members of the home circle.
31. Of course, no gentleman will chew tobacco in a church, parlor, or in the presence of ladies.
32. Be natural. Avoid eccentricity and affectation.
33. Do not ape any one.
34. Your room is the place for making your toilet. Do not arrange your clothing in company.
35. In company avoid paring or cleaning your nails, picking your teeth, scratching your head, etc.
36. Be not egotistical nor pompous. These faults would cloud the most brilliant genius; how much more so mere ordinary mortals.
37. Volunteer your aid to any lady in distress, or to an invalid or aged person.
38. You cannot afford to let one beneath you in station exceed you in pohteness. Be courteous to every one.
39. Boast of nothing; especially not of your wealth, since that is the least qualification of a gentleman.
40. A wife or husband should speak respectfully of each other, and should be mentioned as Mr. , or Mrs. .
41. Ostentation is silly and vulgar.
42. Never make your ailments or your troubles a topic of conversation, but treat sympathetically those who do.
43. Never contradict in a rude manner. Always point out a mistake with gentle courtesy.
44. Never soil or mark a book that has been lent to you. Return it in good order; and, if unavoidably injured, return it and a fresh copy also.